Good friends, bad relationships

On Saturday, I went rock scrambling with the RU kids. It's been a few months since I've seen them or got to hang out with them for any length of time. It was good seeing old friends again.

The day started off kind of week. There was a lot of intragroup dating throughout the four years of school. After witnessing some of pretty bad breakups and other decint breakups, you realize just how devastating secular dating is. It not only ruins the friendships of those involved, but it puts a huge strain on the other friendships in the group. It's almost as if you have to pick sides and no matter what side of the conflict you end up being on, it makes it really difficult to hang out with everyone at one time.

This issue came up when trying to plan for my wedding (no, it's not for some time yet). We're trying to figure out who our bridesmaids and groomsmen are going to be. I already have an idea of who I want, but the group dynamics may not allow us to make the decisions that we want. It's supposed to be a fun and joyous event and I don't want there to be any sort of tension in the air. But is it fair to ask the parties involved to put aside their differences for one day? Am I that selfish?

After this weekend, I don't know if it will be possible to get the people we want involved. But there is still time, maybe they'll make up with each other.